When adorable infants start walking and having opinions about their environment, parents must develop a new set of skills. It can be exhausting, embarrassing and annoying when toddlers lose their temper over things that don’t seem important.
Developmentally, toddlers are learning to communicate and express emotions. As parents, you develop patience and model the type of communication you’d like your child to learn. Here are some tips to managing these emotional outbursts with your children.
- What was happening right before the tantrum?
- Are there patterns in the child’s tantrums?
- Are there certain situations that trigger them?
Learn: What might be causing the child’s loss of control?
- Unable to do something
- Not enough language to express his thoughts or feelings
- Irritability due to hunger or fatigue
- Stay calm
- Stay close and keep your child safe
- Validate your child’s feelings: “You are having a hard time. Everyone needs a break sometimes.”
- Afterward tell him what a good job he did calming down.
You and your child will get through this stage! Remember to model for your child the behavior you’d like to see in him: kindness, patience, respect, and good communication.
We all want to be good parents! We want what’s best for our children. We want our children to grow up healthy, intelligent, respectful, and happy. But once we’re in the throes of day-to-day life as a parent, it’s not always easy to know what is the “right” way to respond to our children.
Parenting has to be learned. It takes a lot of trial and error. Stay open to learning and improving your parenting skills. Read, talk to other parents you trust, and stay involved with those who care for your children. Children learn by example. They learn by watching you. Set a good example: how you act often speaks louder than your words. Work on being patient every day. Listen with your full attention when your child is upset. Remember to teach your child, not punish them. They are ready to learn, and parents are their first teachers. Express as much love as you can! Use words and praise as well as hugs and affection.
Being a good parent means you:
- Protect and guide your children
- Provide them a safe and caring home
- Meet each of their special needs
- Provide rules and love
- Show them lots of positive attention
- Sometimes put aside your own needs to help your children
- Accept the responsibility of parenting
- Love your child, no matter what
If you need help with parenting, consider attending a United Way of Santa Fe County parenting class. We offer Positive Parenting Programs and help parents learn about what children need most and how to be a great parent. To see our schedule of classes, click on Calendar.
Eating healthy foods can help you have a healthy baby. You only need about 300 extra calories per day for your growing baby. So, eat smart and make healthy food choices.
Examples of healthy foods
- Whole grain bread
- High fiber cereal
- Whole grain pasta
- Raw or cooked vegetables
- Vegetable juice
- Fresh or frozen fruit
- Low fat or skim milk
- Plain yogurt
- Peanut butter
- Nuts and seeds
- Lean meat, poultry, or fish
Here are some tips to make healthy eating easier:
- Make more than you need and freeze the extra for future meals. Also freeze unused vegetables and spices like onion, garlic, peppers, parsley, and greens.
- Keep staple foods on hand at home. These are foods that you can use for almost any meal such as: beans, rice, pasta, frozen vegetables, pasta sauce, and peanut butter.
- Eat 4-6 smaller meals a day instead of 3 big ones. For snacks, you can eat cheese, vegetables, fruit, and peanut butter.
- Drink at least six 8-ounce glasses of water every day.
Eating healthy foods should give you all the nutrients you need during pregnancy. Taking prenatal vitamins along with eating healthy foods can help you get the nutrients you and your baby need during pregnancy.
Brains are built and grow through touch, talk, sight and sound in early childhood experiences. This experiential learning starts long before a child steps foot into kindergarten and is strengthened through regular interaction and stimulation in the home and in quality early learning settings.
Our home visitors encourage parents to read, sing, talk, and interact with their babies. The First Born Program® has a set curriculum to teach parents the value of multiple positive interactions a day.
During the first five years, a child’s brain is at its most flexible, making this a critical period for learning and growth. Science tells us that children who face adversity in the first years of life, especially those in low-income households, are more at risk for experiencing damage to their brain architecture, which can lead to lifelong problems in learning, behavior, and physical and mental health. Prevention through high-quality early learning and home visiting provide the support children need to build a foundation for a healthy and productive future. Waiting until kindergarten is too late—children who receive quality early education demonstrate greater cognitive and socio-emotional growth than children who do not.
Consider the following:
- More than one million new neural connections are formed every second in the first few years of life.
- 90% of a child’s brain physical volume develops as early as five years old.
- The brain is most flexible and adaptable to learning during the earliest years of life.
- Children who face greater adversity, like living with abuse or neglect, are at far greater risk for delays in their cognitive, language, or emotional development.
- The brains of babies and young children require stable, caring, interactive relationships with adults for healthy brain development to take place.
United Way of Santa Fe County has the sole mission of providing early childhood education opportunities to all children in Santa Fe County. Through home visiting and high-quality PreK, as well as other innovative program, we strive to give all children a great start in school and life.
Tummy time is playtime on baby’s stomach, when the baby is awake and being supervised.
Why is tummy time important? It helps baby:
- Learn more movement
- Increase self-confidence and independence
- Learn to crawl, roll over, and walk
- Develop basic milestones, including sitting up
- Strengthen neck and stomach muscles
It also prevents babies from developing a flat head and provides a break from being on their backs.
- An infant needs to be awake and on its tummy several times a day, at least 1-2 minutes at a time. Watch baby the whole time.
- Schedule tummy time into baby’s day, like after each feeding, diaper change, or naptime.
- However, always put the baby to sleep on his back to reduce the risk of SIDS.
Start tummy time in the first week home from the hospital. A good way to start is by placing baby on parent’s chest.
- Lie on your back. Put baby’s face down on your chest and start talking. Baby will try to look up at your face.
- Lie baby on tummy on a soft mat. Place age appropriate toys just out of reach.
- Baby will learn to reach for the toys. Reaching forward and reaching to the side are both good exercises.
- Stay down on the floor with your baby. Talk or sing while baby is playing.
Increase tummy time to several minutes, several times a day.